What is it all about?
by Phil Smith

Well it’s not a “shrink”. As we know, most Americans seem obsessed with them. They usually become a permanent fixture -- a “crutch” that they cannot do without.
By contrast, after between four or six sessions of coaching, you won’t need me any more.
 
They tend to advise, too, and it tends to involve regularly digging up those depressing things  in the past. I don’t advise, because you will have all the answers. I just help you find them and set targets for the ‘new you’ to flourish permanently, and whilst the past has its place, I concentrate on the positive things and your happiness.
 
Yes, I know, it all seems very hard to believe. All I can say is that a huge number of people have made fantastic changes to their lives across America and Europe, not least the clients I have already seen here in Spain in the short time I’ve been here.
 
So why would you need my help?........... Well perhaps you feel hemmed in, confined to a life that has taken you over. Pre-occupied with your mortality, your health.
Are you enjoying your work, your friends, your family, your free time? If you’ve retired here, does everything seem a bit pointless? ...Is it, perhaps, like you’ve lost your purpose and are wondering what the heck you are supposed to doing here in Spain? Perhaps there’s a big black hole in your life that needs to be filled...perhaps you haven’t got a partner any more, it’s just not the same being on your own..…and Christmas will be here soon!
 
Our parents, schoolteachers, friends -- even our enemies -- people at work, our families, and our partners have conditioned us all. Some of this “stuff” has brought negatives, and sometimes making us believe we can’t do things is limiting us and our potential. How often do we hear: “Well, you know what I’m like”...but who said so?
Those voices in your head that say: “Hey don’t kid yourself, they’re way out of your league!”...” Whatever makes you think you deserve that”? And then, there are all those embarrassing and humiliating moments that seem to stay in our minds forever.
 
My job is to peel away all this “stuff” and take it out of your life for good, and inspire you to be the person you really are underneath; the person you can be. And what a big surprise that can be!
 
But there is just one very important thing......none of this can happen unless you really want a change in your life. You need the courage to do it, take that leap and make that commitment to yourself. Then just pick up the phone to me.
 
Let me put to you in this way: you decide to climb your mountain, and I give you all the equipment and help you plan the route to the top. I’ll be your biggest supporter, and cheer for you all the way. You can trust me implicitly and I will listen -- really listen -- to everything you tell me. You must understand -- really understand -- I am completely neutral, and never judgmental in any way.
 
When someone asks you how you are, how wonderful it would it be to say: “I’m so happy with my life”...not just: “fine”.
I never thought that would be possible, but a coach did that for me, and that’s why I became one. It’s also why I enjoy every single day here so much.

For a free consultation please ring me.    
Phil Smith.  A member of the Institute of Human Development.